Topic # 1: Life After the Wedding - the Married Life.
What are the things you want them to know about life after the wedding?
It's true when they say that the wedding is just icing on the cake. What's far more important is what will life be after -- it's marriage. When the lights turned down low and the curtains have been put down, that's where the story of your life actually begins.
Perhaps, it helped that we actually married when we were both of age and were mature enough to understand the consequences of our actions. We were both over 25 and decisions were already never hard to make. The first year was bliss because that was also the year that we had Lizzie - our darling princess. She gave us the reason to strive harder, to earn and save and to make things work in the family. Fights were inevitable but we have managed to stay strong amidst all the storms and trials that came our way.
After 3 years, 3 months and 16 days... I LEARNED:
1. that respect is the ultimate virtue that shoulr be present in every marriage. respect begets respect and it's true they say that love, after many years, will fade but respect should remain constant in yor lives. when you respect your partner, you will never do anything to make hurt her. i don't really mind falling out of love. for me, what's more important is not losing my respect for my partner.
2. that marriage is a two way street. it takes two to tango. there's no such thing as "i find joy in just giving". marriage is give and take. it's all about being sensitive to the needs of your partner. it's about finding ways to make it work each day.
3. that in a marriage (or in any relationship for that matter), it's always the woman who paddles the canoe and who calls the shots. men are generally dependent on their wives so we are expected to be stronger and wiser and prepared about anything in life.
4. that it is a never ending commitment. it is not a job. it is a passion.
5. it's not all about flowers. it's about holding hands and patting each other's back. it's about continuously growing with each other.
And if I were to give an advice for Lizzie if and when she decides to get married?
Well, we will get there... Not now. I am not yet prepared. She's only 2. And she's only learning how not to pee in her bed. :)
4 left their thoughts:
Natawa ako sa last line mo. Naku Martha is just starting potty training, I dont even want to think of her having crushes yet. LOL
I love this point:
3. that in a marriage (or in any relationship for that matter), it's always the woman who paddles the canoe and who calls the shots. men are generally dependent on their wives so we are expected to be stronger and wiser and prepared about anything in life.
Aminin man nila o hindi, talagang ang babae ang nagdadala ng relasyon diba?
And marriage is really a commitment - till death do us part talaga :D
very well said Farah! I love everything you wrote in this post :)
Thank you for sharing your insights to AWK: The Married Life. The recap is posted - I hope you read everyone's entries!
The third installment of the Aggie Wants To Know Series is up! It's intimidating at first but Im sure you'll enjoy reading it once you are done! You can do your own thing too - I just want to know how the the first six months of 2008 went for you :) I hope you join!
Thank you for sharing your insights to AWK: The Married Life. The recap is posted - I hope you read everyone's entries!
The third installment of the Aggie Wants To Know Series is up! It's intimidating at first but Im sure you'll enjoy reading it once you are done! You can do your own thing too - I just want to know how the the first six months of 2008 went for you :) I hope you join!
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